Hey there, I'm Tess
Master Therapeutic Coach helping people to discover what they want & build it from the inside out.
Master Therapeutic Coach helping people discover what they want & build it
from the inside out.
Tess René:
Before I found my footing as the dream-following, accepter-of-who-I-am kind of gal, I was hustling for external validation but didn't know it.
I was an over-achiever yet lived in a state of purposelessness. I thought I went 100% into everything because of passion but in reality, I was driven by a lack of self belief:
My immediate & extended relatives couldn't function well enough to raise a child, so from the age of 15 I lived in foster care in a small, prairie town where everyone knew I was the kid who was left behind.
"I appeared confident but self-doubt plagued me & I thought any acceptance I won was due to excellent acting skills, not the real me.
I didn't think I'd 'earned' success & I blamed my past as the reason I didn't belong in the present."
I finished Grade 12 in a rented farm-house because I had aged-out of the system. I felt chronically afraid but never told a soul.
Everyone saw my stoicism as strength, but it was fear. I didn't show my emotions for fear of rejection. I learned that if I acted happy, smart & accomplished: then I was accepted.
My worth became tied to my performance. I excelled outwardly & struggled inwardly to the point of near-ruin.
Chronic anger, unworthiness, self doubt, fear & uncertainty always loomed in my mind.
I kept a smile plastered on my face but the whole time, I FELT I didn't belong & knew that anyone who accepted me was be-friending a smiley, phoney Tess.
My immediate & extended relatives couldn't function well enough to raise a child, so from the age of 15 I lived in foster care in a small, prairie town where everyone knew I was the kid who was left behind.
I finished Grade 12 in an old, farm-house rental because I had aged-out of the system. I chronically felt afraid & lost but never told a soul.
Everyone saw my stoicism as strength, but it was fear. I didn't show my emotions for fear of rejection. I decided that I would 'act' happy, be smart & accomplish everything; then I'd belong.
My worth became tied to my performance. I excelled outwardly & struggled inwardly to the point of near-ruin.
Chronic unworthiness, self doubt, anger, fear, uncertainty all loomed in my mind.
I kept a smile plastered on my face but the whole time, I believed I didn't belong, because anyone who accepted me was be-friending a smiley, phoney Tess.
Not for one
second did I think
I belonged.
the personal story of
Master Therapeutic Coach | Developmental Psych Researcher | HSP | INFJ | Tea-Obsessed | Former OVERACHIEVER
one of tHE MOST IMPORTANT "PEople" IN MY LIFE (& sitting on my lap as I write this to you...).
One of the most important "People" in my life.
My furbucket
My cat:
Understand what happened before.
Hold onto resentment.
Underachieve.
Overperform.
Do you ever feel like you need to:
Have people validate or LIKE you.
Know what is going to happen next.
Avoid recreating yourself.
Recreate yourself.
Be qualified.
Control the outcome.
Exaggerate who you are.
Fix it all, suffer, OR WAIT TO HEAL.
Escape & isolate.
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Possibly one of the most important "People" IN MY LIFE (& sitting on my lap as I write this to you...).
One of THE MOST IMPORTANT people in my life.
My cat:
My
Fur-bucket:
I DEVELOPED: Agoraphobia, chronic sleeplessness, social anxiety, hair loss, A SENSE OF rage, & distrust of almost everyone, to name a few.
It wasn't till rage threatened my closest relationships & stress caused loss of health, that I decided to do whatever it took to THRIVE in my life & FIND FREEDOM.
AFTER 2 decades of chasing moving goals & trying to prove to myself & the world that I was ok, eventually the cracks showed.
My Psychology training, taught me how to heal, but I was not free until...
The researcher got to work: I had studied the mind & applied it in my work as Life Coach & Vocal Coach for decades.
I already knew many of the steps for healing & they were necessary for the process, but they weren't enough to free me from the anger of the past or my insecurity.
Then I found the combination of steps that set me free from the emotions that imbalanced me & the thoughts that bullied me & kept me feeling uncertain of everything I said & did...
The best part?
Evidence-based, brain re-wiring is something everyone is capable of.
And none of it was as complicated as I thought it would be.
START NOW: FIND YOUR FREEDOM &
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...I combined my training with compassion & well-honed intuition. As a result, I changed my relationship with my emotions & the belief systems that kept me hidden.
I built my private practice on my evidence-based training and life-taught principles. There is no greater JOY than teaching my clients these skills & watching them can see beyond their blocks and create lives they love.
If this is possible for me & them, it is possible for you & it DOESN'T have to be a LONG, COMPLICATED process.
My training in Psychology, taught me how to heal, but I was not free until...
Understand what happened before.
Hold onto resentment.
Underachieve.
Control the outcome.
Do you think
you 'need' to:
Make sure people validate or LIKE you.
Know what is going to happen next.
Avoid recreating yourself.
Recreate yourself.
Be qualified.
Overperform.
Exaggerate who you are.
Fix it all, suffer, OR WAIT TO HEAL?
Escape & isolate.
Understand what happened before.
Hold onto resentment.
Underachieve.
Control every outcome.
Do you think
you "need" to:
Have people validate or LIKE you.
Know what is going to happen next.
Avoid recreating yourself.
Recreate yourself.
Be qualified.
Overperform.
Exaggerate who you are.
Fix it all, suffer, OR WAIT TO HEAL?
Escape & isolate.
i hear you & i've been there
... struggle does not have to run your life either!
Ten years ago, I believed I needed those things too.
My actions & behaviour were influenced by quiet, lurking beliefs that I didn't know I had!
Unconscious Beliefs about myself & others kept me small & made it impossible to FEEL GOOD.
Those Beliefs caused me to assume the way I saw myself was "just the person I was," but now I know how wrong I was.
And if you are struggling I also know...
My actions were being influenced by quiet, lurking beliefs that I was acting on - but didn't know I had.
Unconscious Beliefs about myself & others kept me small & made it impossible to FEEL GOOD.
Those Beliefs caused me to assume the way I saw myself was "just the person I was," but now I know how wrong I was. And if you are struggling I also know
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my EXPERTISE:
it's personal
Our SUBCONSCIOUS programming forms our healing & suffering. We have the power to change that language; we just need to be taught HOW. I invested 20 years of study & practice to support others' ability to gain freedom. My expertise aids the strategy but my personal story drives the passion.
remove what doesn't serve
My methods are evidence-based & curated from 15 yrs as a professional coach & trained specialist. Together, we create steps you can maintain & build a foundation for sustainable healing & functional change. I give you a framework, not just to 'know' what to do but to start applying it. If you found this page, it's a call to create something new today.
evidence-based
Investing 2 decades of rigorous research & higher education, I produced a premium coaching practice that yields lasting patterns of change on MENTAL, EMOTIONAL & SPIRITUAL levels. The methods I teach my clients are the ones I taught myself & create lasting freedom.
| MASTER THERAPEUTIC COACH |
| DEVELOPMENTAL PSYCHOLOGY RESEARCHER |
| MASTER THERAPEUTIC COACH | AUTHOR | DEVELOPMENTAL PSYCHOLOGY RESEARCHER |
ALL ABOUT
Straight talk,
LONG walks,
short emails,
helping you claim
agency in your life.
NOT ABOUT
Comparison,
band-aid solutions,
self-blame,
"perfection",
hustle.
Private coaching
You & Me. Let's Build Something Incredible Together
You don't have to know where you need help, you only need the desire to feel better. Through my training in Psychotherapy & Trauma Recovery Work, you can discover what prevents you from doing & feeling how you want, how to break free of old patterns & create peace individually & in your most important relationships.
FINANCIAL ACCESSIBILITY:
I believe in Accessible-Aid & reflect that in my Fair & Equitable Pricing. Tess René Coaching is a premium Therapeutic Coaching practice, combining the healing power of therapeutic modalities with the action oriented nature of coaching. I'm dedicated to your goals, increasing mental wellness & living your life on your terms.
TRANSFORMATION:
I unlock your potential & maximize your performance by helping you to learn more about yourself & offering guidance while building your self trust: a key feature of my practice. I honour my clients individuality & help them create a plan specifically tailored to their needs, blocks & goals.
