You want to believe in yourself, but you don’t know how to. Let’s start with how you approach reaching your goals.
Most people can identify their goals, but many don’t know how to put them into action.
MORE IMPORTANTLY, they are not connected to their reasons WHY they want to put those goals into action.
HOWEVER, people with a strong sense of SELF-EFFICACY have a belief in their capability to execute the actions required to affect their success in a situation: They believe they will be able to do what they want to.
Those beliefs determine how they think, feel & behave. People with a high sense of self-efficacy can FULLY count themselves in because they trust their abilities.
Their reasons for their goals are clear: goals are for pure enjoyment & creating an experience, not to prove their worth to anyone else.
You want to count yourself in, but it’s hard to believe in yourself: if that is true for you:
– Check out your belief systems.
– Check your Core Values.
– Do they line up with what you want?
– Have you considered what your goal is worth?
– What are you willing to sacrifice for it?
The answers to these questions are necessary to get to know yourself deeper and build an honest rapport with yourself.
From that honest rapport and self-knowledge, you’ll be able to build self-efficacy.
Your goal may even change when you hear those answers, but what does that matter? The thing to focus on is building your sense of self and self-belief.
How do you build self-belief?
Let’s return to the high self-efficacy people. They have a high sense of self-belief.
People with a high sense of self-efficacy tend to:
- develop a deeper sense of self-understanding.
- Form a stronger commitment to their interests.
- Act on their interests more often.
- View any setbacks as challenges to be overcome; not as insufficiency in them.
People with a low sense of self-efficacy tend to:
- Get discouraged more easily.
- Give up on goals more quickly.
- Feel left out or that they don’t contribute enough.
- Avoid challenges or challenging projects.
- Believe that mistakes are a result of their inability.
- Focus on failures.
- Quickly lose confidence when obstacles arise.
When we believe these biases, we shrink our world. We experience less in life. We may see it as protection from failure, but it’s also less opportunity for growth.
It’s much easier to believe in ourselves when we KNOW ourselves.
Invest in your self-knowledge by looking at your core values asking them the questions we went over at the top of this article.
Our values change over our lives, in big and small ways.
It’s good to check in regularly & discover whether what you want now is still the same as it was when you made your current goals.
As your self-knowledge grows, so will your self-trust & self-efficacy. Then you’ll be enabled to experience what you WANT to & reach for things that come from your true desires.
And then you can count yourself in…